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Wondering about the connection between religion and terrorism, there have been so many motivational attacks based on religion, there being a definite connection between the two is questionable. Is religion really the driving force behind these, if not, should it be, or is it the religion or the politics based on religion to introduce such attacks? One’s need to prove others that one’s religion is good or best, is problematic.

It is not religion that is causing these attacks, rather, it is our boisterous need to prove our religion best that is terrorizing the world, but, of course, one weaponises religion!

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When talking of “terror”, the image that this word initially produces in my mind is of killings and bloodshed everywhere. However, when I further think of relationships of any kind among different religions, I wonder, whenever people of different religions indulge into disputes, their foremost blame is to the dissimilarity of religions. Furthermore, every religion has various castes among the same religion.

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When two individuals of different castes but same religion cannot live harmoniously, how can two individuals of differing religions be at peace with each other? Is not this “terror” too? Though not affecting one physically, but a definite emotional “attack”.

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All the religions, in spite of their various different rituals and customs, have one thing in common, that is, they all enforce the idea of believing and loving God though the customs and rituals vary. One is an Indian because one lives in India, but what makes one Indian, or, rather, what makes one  American, Chinese, or Pakistani? I do not endeavour to offend anybody by saying one disrespects the soil one lives on, one very much respects it. One must notice that the geographical locations are playing a vital role in forming our identities. There is nothing that makes one’s blood or skin Indian or American, rather, geography is playing a very crucial role here which is often misinterpreted. Living in different countries or following different religions does not make us any better or superior to others. We all are connected by the common idea of loving God in our ways. While we all might believe God to have numerous forms or just a supernatural force, but we all believe in a magical force operating above all and, therefore, we all are same.

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A personal sense of motivation, grievance, or injustice, accumulating to terrorism with religion playing a role in it is debateable. Doing away with religion will not eradicate terrorism.

Instead of thinking of terrorism as what terrorists do, understand it as what makes a terrorist and identify the conditions or circumstances that form a terrorist. Recognise the humiliation or discrimination they are subjected to that they indulge into crime as the only outlet to let go off their anger or frustration.

Nobody is good or bad. We define good and bad. Why we get to define? We are not doing good deeds all the time nor are we doing bad at all times. We all have the potential to be bad or good at the same time. God created us all alike, god loves us all alike. God didn’t create us good or bad, we evolve ourselves.

We complaint to God when something bad happens to us, God cannot complaint to none when his one creation destroys another.

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THE PERFECT BRIDE PART II

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PERFECT BRIDE part II

Like most of the couples, Gauri and Rishav had a fairytale honeymoon. They had traveled the length and breadth of Switzerland. They came back with bags full of gifts, cameras full of snaps and mind full of memories.She was leading a happy married life. She loved how Rishav surprised her now and then, how their conversations ended with kisses and how Sundays were reserved for their dinner dates but she had forgotten good things don’t last forever.

Two months had passed since her big fat wedding, yet she loved getting ready like any other newly married bride. She decided to take attachment with few hospitals and become financially independent so that she could fund her post graduation. She wore hand full of bangles, saree that her sister in law had gifted her and earrings that were studded with diamonds. She preferred wearing dusted vermilion over the liquid ones that were available in the market. Rishav wondered why she was getting ready.

He enquired her where she was going while he buttoned his shirt. She told him that she will start working too. Rishav got infuriated at her idea and refused bluntly. She was appalled at his behavior. She asked why to which he did not respond. As Gauri found his behavior immature, she applied in few hospitals after he left for office. She came back drenched in sweat, her hair dishelved and her bag slipping from shoulder. To her utter surprise, Rishav was back, she knocked at the door but Rishav did not open . She thought he was asleep and called him, he cut the call immediately. Gauri waited at the door for hours, occasionally banging the door. She called her neighbor as she got scared. Her neighbor called Rishav and he finally opened the door.

Gauri thanked her neighbor and let him go. She entered and hugged Rishav and expressed how scared she got. He pushed her with all his force and she fell on the floor while he walked away to his room and closed the door. Gauri was taken aback, she kept banging his door, asking the reason why he got so angry. He did not care to respond. Somewhere deep down, Rishav’s ego was hurt. He could not accept Gauri disobeying her. Gauri sat by the door the entire night weeping copiously.

In the morning, Rishav found Gauri cooking in the kitchen. As soon as he opened the door, she rushed towards him begging for forgiveness . Rishav kept mum and got ready for office. Gauri saw the milk was about to boil over so she went inside the kitchen. Her cellphone rang. The call was from an unknown number. She picked it up and realized it was from the City Hospital. They had agreed to appoint her. Rishav snatched the phone from her hand and told the person on the other side that his wife was not interested.

This time, Gauri got angry and shouted at Rishav for behaving this way but only Gauri’s voice was echoing in the room. Rishav left for office leaving behind Gauri’s questions unanswered. Gauri headed towards the city hospital and apologized to them. She joined the hospital that very day. She was working under a senior doctor. That day a little five year old had visited her for regular check up. In his little hands, he had a bunch of flowers which he picked up from his garden. While leaving he gifted one of the flowers to Gauri. Gauri tugged the flower in her bun. She left the office but got stuck in the middle of a huge jam. She reached home three hours late and Rishav was already home. Unlike the last time, Rishav opened the door after one knock. She entered the room but Rishav grabbed her hair and dragged her towards the bedroom. The flower fell down from her hair on the floor. Gauri shrieked out of pain but he picked her up and threw her on the bed, undressing her. Gauri resisted but all her trials were in vain.

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Next day, she woke up, sore and hurt, stripped of her dignity and soul.One fateful night crushed all her fascinations of being a bride under the paws of an animal who her parents had blindly mistaken to b the poster boy for perfection.

After Rishav left, Gauri called her mom and narrated the night’s events. Her mom exclaimed that this is a woman’s fate and she has to learn to adjust. She was instructed to leave the job and live as a housewife. Gauri could see the word ‘MRS’ overshadowing the doctor in front of her name but this was a sacrifice she was not ready to make. She draped her wounded soul and body in a blue saree and left for the hospital.

Gauri’s perseverance enraged Rishav. The war was no longer between him and her but it was a war between ego and self-respect. Rishav locked Gauri in a room and broke her phone. Gauri shouted at the top of her voice so that someone would come to the rescue but her voice was too feeble in comparison to the big mansion she was imprisoned in.

After few days Gauri’s parents reached her house when they could not reach her over the phone. Now Rishav was between the devil and the deep sea, he was left with no option. He allowed Gauri to meet her parents but warned her to keep her mouth shut but Gauri cried her eyes out and disclosed how she was tormented. Her parents decided to take her home along with them.

Rishav reached home and found the house empty. Gauri’s parents called him up and asked for a divorce. He refused and demanded Gauri back. Without a second thought, they sued him for domestic violence and marital rape. Meanwhile, Gauri got pregnant. Now Rishav and his family wanted the custody of their child but after fighting for three long years, Gauri finally got a divorce.

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But there was no looking back after that. She was raising her daughter Aditri. She had joined several NGOs and fought for women who were the victim of domestic violence. She had completed her post graduation and was the senior doctor of one of the best Hospitals in the country.

She delved into research and was a part of finding a cure for a difficult disease. She was called for an interview by a news channel. She took Aditri along with her. The interview consisted of questions on her research work and NGO.Gauri was calm until the interviewer asked her, “Don’t you think your life is incomplete without a husband?” To her, this question was a disgrace not only to her but all the woman in the world.

“I was a victim of domestic violence. I was barred from following my dreams. At that time I had two options, either to give up my dreams and settle down as a housewife or live my dreams all alone. I chose the second. I found no point in sharing the bed with a person who had started treating me as a slave. His degrees were just letters. He was blind to my pain, my wounds, and my sufferings. I did not need such a man in my life. We marry so that we have a company and not a master. I am a proud single mother. I have no regrets for leaving that beast behind. If he had been a part of my life, my journey would have had loopholes and that wouldn’t have made my life complete.”, answered she.

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The crowd around grew silent. Gauri got scared because she thought she revealed way too much about her personal life. She wished she could retract her words but after few seconds when the silent crowd praised her spirit with an applause her regret vanished in thin air. Somewhere within she knew she had encouraged another Gauri to pack her bags and pursue her dream.

Psychological Tricks to Help Sail You In Life

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16 Psychological Facts to Make Your Life Easier and Better

There are certain things that are beyond our control, no matter how hard we try.Dig in slightly deeper, and you’ll find that every “unique” brain, functions more or less the same way.

So here we are, making your life a tad bit easier, with these daily hacks.

Let your mojo rule vast and wide!

  1. Choose your music

The type of music you listen to, affects the way you perceive things.

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  1. How to become more likeable

When talking to someone, use their name to make them like you more.

Psychological Tricks to Help Sail You In Life

  1. Stalker alert

If you think someone is staring at you, glance in their direction and check the time either on a clock or your wristwatch. If the person does the same, they were staring. How we know that, you ask? Well, checking time is contagious.

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  1. Know who is on your side

Take a peek at their feet when someone is talking to you. If it is pointed away from you, the person wants the conversation to stop.

Psychological Tricks to Help Sail You In Life

  1. Find the closest pairs

When a group of people laugh, people instinctively look at that person in the group they are closest to or want to be closest to.

  1. Know the blurry line

When someone is talking to you and making eye contact 60% of the time, they are bored. If 80% of the time, then they are interested and if 100%, they are angry and are threatening you.

  1. Confidence is the key

Brilliance and Intelligence is confusing for many people. If you know what you are doing, people will automatically rally behind you.

  1. How to get people do some of your chores

To make a friend, hold your stuff. Keep talking to them on some other topic while handing them the stuff. They will hold it, because they are paying attention to your talk. Some might get confused too.

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  1. Keep a few secrets

If you announce your goals to other people, you are less likely to succeed. Studies have confirmed that you lose your motivation if you tell everyone what you wish to achieve in life.

  1. How to score on your first date or meeting

People will never remember what you said, but will always remember how you made them feel. So if you are on your first date, go to some place adventurous. You date will associate that thrill with you.

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  1. Don’t prick someone’s bubble

People have a certain image of themselves. If you attack their self-image, you will be the instant object of dislike.

  1. Give a choice, but not exactly

Give choice, where you think the other person has certain amount of control, but not in entirety. For example; give a child a choice of whether he or she will like the milk flavoured or plain. This way you have won their heart too and kept yourself in some position of control too.

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  1. Life Lessons

Smarter people underestimate themselves. Ignorant people think they are brilliant.

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  1. Why some women date less

Women with higher IQs have a harder time finding a mate suitable. However, you need not bring yourself down for anyone. You will find a soulmate who understands and admires you the way you are.

  1. Stop Humming an irritating song

If you can’t stop humming a song,sing its ending paragraph, you will stop humming the song as well.

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  1. Shutting Bullies Up

If someone is cracking a joke about you in a group, pretend not to hear it and ask them to repeat. Then stop them mid-way for looking at a text or checking your phone. Apologise, and ask them to repeat. The joke is no longer funny for the third time and no one in the group will laugh.

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So pop it, lock it and polka dot it. These facts and tricks will help you get the pressure off your back and, in style.

 

Shantiniketan A Place Which Never Gets Old

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Visit to a place of love is a real peace of mind and best way to relax fully. From the age 8 to 80 all are busy in their schedule and even have a love for travel in their heart though cannot actually make it out. Me too a travel freak but unfortunately a little chance for travelling I get because of my tight schedule of preparing myself for the future. The dream of travelling the whole world often helps motivates me in my lengthy and boring part of self-preparation. After a hectic schedule of 4 to 5 months. I visited Shantiniketan for a few days. This is not the first time but every time it looks new in my eyes. Shantiniketan is a small town near Bolpur situated in Birbhum district of West Bengal, India. West Bengal has many places to cherish weekends but my favorite is Shantiniketan because of its pocket-friendly nature and peaceful atmosphere. Shantiniketan is mainly famous for education in nature established by Rabindranath Tagore. So many people can feel and relate this place with their heart. If you get bored with your schedule, find yourself lifeless in the pressure of job and desperate to go somewhere and no clue of any place strike your mind, just pack your bags and take the ATM card in your purse and catch a train to Bolpur.  It will surely blow your mind.

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This place is approximately 145kms far from Kolkata and trains are very frequent from Howrah station. You can also book a car or drive on your own or ride on your bike.  From the Bolpur Railway station every step you take there is ‘pipp..pipp’ of e-rickshaws (locally named Toto). Now you have to apply your skill of bargaining and they can help you to reach the destination. There are ac and non-ac lodges as per your pocket can afford. There are such artistic and well maintained houses; you can hire a bunglow or enjoy the cordiality of a homestay. If you are a desk-job person then you can have a long walk through the stony rough roads amidst the tall green trees. It can make you fresh and healthy. This place is suitable for friends, family, couples as a great weekend destinationShantiniketan

Shantiniketan has the distinct identity of culture and heritage which makes it unique. you can explore Visva Bharati University founded by Tagore. When you enter in the university campus Kala Bhavana (department of Fine Arts) Sangeet Bhavana (Department of Dance Drama and Music) and obviously Uttarayan Complex where Tagore lived his life. The complete collection of such buildings contain its own valuable architecture and glory. Five houses embrace true architecture named Konarka, Udayana, Shamali, Udichi, Punascha where Tagore usually lived. If you are an admirer of handicrafts you must visit ‘Amar Kutir’  which is a co-operative  complex full of handicrafts and leather crafts. Sriniketan is also a place of tribal handicrafts, traditional ways like pottery, batik cloth, leather and silk material. There is a queue of ethnic shops as you enter the proper Shantiniketan. Beautiful scenario near the bank of Kopai river, because of heavy rainfall creates Khoai which attracts you for its own beauty.

Every Saturday evening beside Kopai river there is a blast of ethnic and handicraft things in haat named Sonajhuri Haat, as the place is full of beautiful Sonajhuri trees. You can get handmade clothes, jewellery and what not. The attraction of this haat is the traditional Bengali foods like patishapta (a desert item of winter), Aam-pora sarbot (green mango juice) and even Momo. Although Fuchka is available in India’s every nook and corner but I remember Shantiniketan  for its Misti Fuchka also. It makes one’s mouth watery. These kind of delicious food can replace your tongue from pizzas, chicken bucket, chinese or street junk for a while.IMG_20160730_172617

            Shantiniketan is always-go-like place but best seasons are March because of Basanta Utsav. Holi, a colorful festival for every Indian. Rabindranath Tagore started Dol (Bengali name of Holi) Utsav in the university campus with full of colorful cultural programs. People from India and also from abroad come to visit this festival. Shantiniketan in monsoon and winter is a real piece of beauty, charm and joy.

            Shantiniketan is one of the best place to spend a quality time with your loved ones and your family. You can full your bag with different ethnic crafts, clothes and jewellery. Walking on a long road hand in hand with your loved one makes you fall in love again. It is a great relief of horns of vehicles, jam and pollutions of speedy crowded dailies. Take a break and once visit Shantiniketan, a place where you never get bored and a place which never gets old.

 

Aamir khan’s upcoming movie, Dangal

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Aamir khan’s upcoming movie, Dangal

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Dangal, which is an Indian biographical sports drama film. It is directed by Nitesh Tiwari. It is a step taken to show that women are no less than men in any field. Aamir khan, playing the role of Mahavir Singh Phogot. This man taught wrestling to all his four daughters but the first two achieved heights. This man creates a road for his daughters to walk on. He made his daughters that much capable, so that their actions in the akhada would silence the mouth of people of the society who discriminates between a girl and a boy.
His first daughter, Geeta phogat who became the Indian’s first female wrestler and won Gold medal(55kg) at the 2010 Commonwealth Games. Fatima Sana shaikh playing this role in the film. Second daughter, Babita kumari, won silver medal(51kg). Sanya Malhotra is playing the role of second daughter. Sakshi Tanwar playing a role of wrestler’s wife as Daya Kaur. Aamir has transformed himself for this movie, he has gained weight and then lost some weight. He would be seen as playing 2 distinct roles: one is of a 60 years old wrestler, Mahavir Phogat and other as a 20 years old who is depicting the role of young life of same wrestler. He was trained to learn Haryanvi and dialect for the film. The most of the shooting took place in villages like Gujjarwal, Narangwal Kila Raipur, Dango, Leel in Punjab and Haryana.

In our society, mostly in backward areas sons are the priority. The entire life of women is filled with agony, dejection and suffering. Even, their parents make them others for society, where they start seeing themselves through the eyes of onlookers. People pray for sons, so that they can proceed their legacy. Due to mental conditiong, they thought that only sons are capable of such responsibility. They did not give a single chance to their daughters to prove it. Wrestling is oftenly associated with men not with girls. Whenever, one tries to go beyond the norms and tries to do something different , the society calls them insensible.

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Dangal, which means akhada in hindi. Here, the two daughters fight against their fate and society. This movie has a lesson for all those people who still have a thinking that sons could only take their legacy ahead. Unlike, all the other fathers who think their daughters as burden. Mahavir singh phogat, was the one who thought that his daughters have equal rights like sons and capability to learn wrestling. He trained his daughters by going against the norms of society. He ignored the comments made my his fellow villagers because he was firmed in his decision. He thinks they have equal right to present their talent in front of the whole world. How, the two daughters have transcends the boundaries of the four walls of their house and steps into the open world around them. The blue sky, under which they are giving wings to their dreams and making themselves ready to fly in that sky. This movie in a way is a tribute to the father like Mahavir Singh Phogat, who has given life to the dreams of his daughters.
If you all are excited about this movie, then just wait for sometime as it will be coming in your near theatres on 23rd December, 2016.
Daughters are no less than sons, if given with equal opportunities.

THE PERFECT BRIDE PART I

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After answering her last question to the reporter, she took a deep breath. Her face flushed red and her heart was still beating fast. She was numb with fear as the crowd around was silent as the grave. Her five year old daughter noticed her mother’s face covered with beads of sweat. She clenched her mom’s fingers with all her strength as if they were one.

Gauri was the girl of every boy’s dream. Her jet black silky hair covered the mole on her waist. Her sharp features complimented her hazel skin which was as tender as the skin of a baby. While she saw the world from a height of 5″ 5, people admired her from miles. Gauri loved wearing a red bindi in between her crescent lush eyebrows. Her deer like eyes sparkled like stars. Even a gunny bag could accentuate her curves. Gauri’s parents had always taken care of her beauty so that she could get the perfect groom but Gauri was way beyond this. The only thing that ever attracted her was her medical books. She was the student of the best medical college of her state. While she continued topping exams, her mom kept filtering eligible bachelors for her. Her mailbox was full of proposals from various matrimonial sites. After her dad published her profile in the matrimonial columns of the daily, the phone never stopped ringing.

Finally after searching the perfect groom for years they found the trophy boy for their girl. His impeccable résumé that had bagged him a plump job in a Silicon Valley company also worked wonders for her parents. Without even caring for Gauri’s consent, they arranged a meeting with his family. After all they did not want the best fish to slip away from their hands.

When she returned home that evening, Gauri’s mom broke the news to her that next day she had to skip college. A boy would come to see her. She tried to negate but failed as her mom’s dream of seeing her in a bridal dress and mangalsutra was more important than her dream of wearing an apron and a stethoscope.

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Her mom purchased a dhakai jamdani from the best shop in town. She bought sweets which her family could not afford on daily basis. Her mom had visited the bank locker so that she could take out some gold jewellery which would match with Gauri’s sari. Though she did not need anything to make her beautiful but it was a way of showing how lucrative the marriage was for the boy’s family.

Gauri’s family welcomed the “perfect groom”. Her mom made him sit on the sofa which was dusted several times before they entered the house. They made sure, the room looked picturesque. Her mom cleaned every show piece, swiped the floor, cleared the cobwebs and cooked palatable food. The groom’s family scanned the room and exchanged looks among themselves. Gauri’s mom called her to come down and the beautiful lady descended the stairs. Unlike other brides her head was held high, her face brimmed with confidence. She sat on the seat next to her father and introduced herself. Her mom was red with rage for Gauri’s upfront nature. She had signaled her to put her head down but she did not.

The Maheshwari family had interrogated her about her future plans to which she replied that she will continue with post graduation after getting married. His family looked at her contemptuously. Gauri and Rishav were sent to her room to talk privately for few minutes. The door was kept ajar so that her mom could eavesdrop.

Gauri’s room was adorned with medals and certificates. Beside her bed was a bookshelf which had books written by authors all across the globe. The 6″2 tall boy brushed his hand against the books and asked Gauri, “Did you read all of them?”, “Most of them but I will finish reading them all after I am done with my internship. “, said she. The conversation continued on books they read, authors they liked, movies they watched etc. While Gauri continued stating her points, Rishav’s eyes followed her fidgety hands, her eyes which brightened up while speaking about Tagore, curls of her hair that started from her shoulder and her dimple which became visible when she smiled. When Gauri caught his wandering eyes, he looked away. Rishav was way too bewitched by her beauty; he had made up his mind to marry her. He was indifferent about her likes, dislikes and interests. He just wanted to bring the prettiest bride home.

After fifteen minutes and more, they left the room. The family sat for lunch and Gauri and her mom served the food. Her mom sang praises how well Gauri cooked food and how they will miss her when she gets married. The dining table discussion ranged from their wedding plans to their childhood stories. The plates were soon empty and they decided to leave. They assured them that they will inform their decision over the phone.

After they left, Gauri’s mom stormed her with questions. She was really confused because the meeting was too short for her to jump into a conclusion but her mom kept mind washing her. She emotionally blackmailed her by reminding her of their struggle and financial status. She approved out of pressure and they got a confirmation call from the perfect groom.

The wedding preparations started, the priest suggested them a date after two months which they approved. After a tiring day in ward, Gauri had to help her mom in the wedding preparations. Her mom broke all the FDs and sold some land to make the wedding pompous and grand. Gauri had to abide by her mother’s order of working out and visiting the parlor daily. She was taken in shops to buy dresses and jewellery. She had to attend number of congratulatory calls from people who never bothered her when she cracked the medical exams. Her dad arranged the wedding hall and caterers. They invited all the people their brain cells could remember.

Meanwhile the bride and groom exchanged messages on various social media sites. Rishav pretended all these two months to reduce the factors of jeopardizing his marriage with her. He sounded like those ideal romantic prince charming every girl dreamt of. Gauri on the other hand made sure that he is aware of all his weakness and strengths. To her marriage was being one from two.

Finally the most awaited day arrived. Gauri wore a red lehenga which had floral design all across them. The bottom was studded with stones. Gold necklaces encircled her neck, heavy earrings hanged from her earlobes. The bangles on her hand covered the mehendi on her wrist. Her long hair was neatly tied in a bun. She sat along with the groom in brown sherwani on two gigantic couches which had designs on them.
The wedding hall was buzzing with people. It had lights twinkling in every corner. All the guests were busy talking, eating, dancing, singing and enjoying. They appeared happier than the bride and groom. Occasionally few guests visited the Gauri and Rishav, they teased them and clicked photographs with them. Both of them were surrounded by gifts and flowers gifted by people.

This continued for few hours and then the bride and groom were called to tie the knot. The priests performed the rituals. People crowded the place. Gauri was made to recite mantras and take the saath pheras. Finally Rishav filled the parting of her hair with vermillion. From the crowd her paternal aunt whispered, “The girl is no longer a member of our family.”
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Part II coming soon…

Discriminating not just on the basis of gender, caste, or religion, but hairs too!

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Girls!! Want to be more feminine?  More prettier? More charming and beautiful?

Come one come all. Shave some shave all!! Get rid of “unwanted “hair. Yes!! Hairs visible on your bare arms can make you look monstrous, then why not remove them? Beauty is just a painful wax away! Waxing makes you more appealing physically and revolves the world around you

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Does it really? It is no April fools day. Sitting idly, watching my somewhat hairy hands, I wondered, had barbie dolls been hairy all over, who would have bought them for their kids? Contradictorily, another thought that strikes me is that while teddy bears are all hairy everywhere, they are preferably more adorable than barbies.

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If removing the hair off your body makes you look and feel more pleasant, then why not shaving off the hairs over the head is considered equally pleasant too?  My argument is not to convince you all to never shave it or keep it, rather, my focus is on telling everybody that introducing changes of any kind in our lifestyle should be as per our wishes, and not for others if these changes don’t benefit us spiritually.

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If a hairless body is “feminine”, then why restrictions to shave the heads? Long hairs are almost “mandatory” for girls everywhere, speaking of India in particular. Also, it is believed that girls with long hairs must behave gently. However, girls having short hair are scorned seldom.  Why?

 

 

In hostels and schools, to maintain uniformity among all the students, they are uniformed likewise; however, attempts are made to make them have short hair. In schools, girls with long hair must form plates, while in hostels, all their hairs are chopped off to resemble alike.

 

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The main idea being that it is easy to control them if their hairs are short.

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Had Katrina Kaif really been Katrina Kaif with all her hairs visible, irrespective of her talent? Also, if now she appears publicly without waxing any hair, either her fans would all be enraged or they could take it positively, loving her as always.  Companies selling such products sell them not as beauty treatments or enhancement products, rather, the advertisements they make to promote their sales, produce effects on viewers that only after using such products the society would accept these individuals as suitable. The societal notion of “beauty” is very complex, typical, and difficult to change but surely, not impossible.

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Hence, one cannot be more “feminine” or “masculine” by removing or adding hairs or something else. Such notions are stereotypical and largely societal. However, one can certainly be more honest with oneself by doing what one wants or likes for oneself, without pressure of any kind.

 

 

MAY BE

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MAYBE ONE DAY HE WILL LOOK BACK
TO THAT GIRL WHO LACK
MAYBE ONE DAY SHE WILL MOVE ON
AND HE WILL REGRET THE FACT
MAYBE ONE DAY HER DREAM WILL COME TRUE
SHE WILL BE AT THE AIRPORT WITH DREAMS IN HER BAG
MAY BE HE LL BE BROKEN ,
MAY ONE DAY HE WILL CALL HER BACK
AND THIS TIME MAY BE……..

Book review- The Ribbon trap

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The Ribbon Trap

The ribbon trap explores the world of a young, intelligent and aspirant girl, Smita. Smita proves to be the phoenix who rises on it own ashes. Smita had only one dream and that was to marry her lover Krishnaprem, an orphan. She knew she could reach the goal only through achieving a position in society, As her parents could be a strong opposition to their marriage. She worked very hard and as a result she was made the assitant collector after passing the examination. She had just set her foot in the reality of dreams. Life, for her, had turned out the way she wanted. But life is never a bed of roses. Some terrible surprises awaited her in the new city, Coimbatore. An unfortunate event turned the world upside down for her. She was acknowledged as a criminal who had assasinated the prime minister, whose security arrangements had been done by her.Because of the incessant tortured that were inflicted upon her, She loses her sanity, her physical beauty and everything that made her Smita. She lost interest in life and wanted to die. It was doctor Matthew whose tireless efforts brought her back to life. She knew what next she had to do. She knew that finding the real culprits is the new aim in life. She sets out to search for the real conspirers behind the prime minister’s assasination. The author has portrayed political world in detail. The hidden filth of politics is evident in every episode. The ugly game of thrones and positive image costed a girl her everything, and this is the story all about.

Reviewer’s Views- According to me The author has created an ambience of suspence which is maintained throughout the play. The story on the whole is predictable but the investigation is very uncertain and it lures the reader to stick to itself. The story commences like any bollywood movie and the word picture created by the author helps the readers to visualise the whole scene. The story is one of a kind and I would consider it as one of the best I have ever read if I avoid the setbacks.

Set backs– 1. After recovering from trauma, Smita was released and she was aquitted free despite being the supreme suspect for the assasination of the prime minister.
2. Krishnaprem, Smita’s fiance joins in the investigation much later saying that he had been following them ever since they started it. Smita and Rasheed were on an important mission where they did not notice, and discussed everything in front of people without maintaining their secrecy. It was that easy for Krishnaprem to follow their steps, and it would have been equally easy for her rivals. But they somehow resorted different means.

Book- The Ribbon Trap.
Writer- Shine Syamaladevi.
Publisher- lifi publications pvt. ltd.
First published- 2016.
Genre- Detective and mystery stories.

Ratings: 4/5.

Are smartphones more important than human relations?

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Hello everyone, We always keep our eyes on the most popular things around us, which seems bright, appealing, fascinating, charming but deep down they are the most darkest things because they just bright from outside and hollow from inside. In the limelight of those fascinating things we makes our selves so engrossed that we hardly realize that it could take away something most precious from ourselves.

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Today, from your busy schedule I just want 10 minutes to read this article because at the last of this article, we all as humans would surely give a second thought to our relationships. We, in today’s time spent our most of the times with our smartphones rather than sitting and spending time with our grandparents and parents and discussing about what is going on in their life. We all are forgetting that these smartphones are mere machine, nothing else but we have made this unpopular thing, so popular one. We are ignoring our rooted relationships just to be engrossed with this materialistic thing. We ourselves has made these smartphones are self and made our human relations as others. As we keep ourselves busy most of the times with smartphones and knowingly create a void in our relationships.

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In earlier times, when there were no mobile phones, only rare ones could afford it at that point of time. It was used to be the one phone for the entire house. People used to have sufficient time to spent with their near ones and used to share each other’s feelings and exchange happiness and sadness.

We all are somewhere ignoring that love and affection from our near ones and creating lack of communication by making this mere gadget so important. The most popular thing in this world is the love and care of our parents and these smartphones has created darkness in everybody’s heart. This mere gadget has overpowered the brightness of everybody’s heart and creates darkness and hollowness.

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Sometimes, when my mom calls me from kitchen to help her in cooking food but I used be so engrossed in working on my smartphone that I really ignored her call and after getting satisfied by checking out each and everything on phone, I realized that mom has called me for her help. Our ears and eyes may be actively participating in present but our mind only participates in checking out our phones. Those social media friends become so much important that we forget about our family and most specially our parents. Every teenage in today’s time going through this in their life without realizing that what they are losing ?

So, I hope that we all start looking at our relationships and start giving time to our parents and siblings more than we used to give to our smartphones. At the end, these special people in your life would support you only not your smartphones.
Stop making smartphones the most important thing rather start making human relations the most important thing.