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ASHIYANA – A HOUSE

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I was really happy with my life. I was honestly blessed with all the basic necessities not just materialistic but the real as well. I feel I was the happiest girl . I am a normal girl like everyone out there living a fairy tale life. My life has always been a perfect life, the life people actually imagine of. A caring and understanding family, loving siblings, three time good and healthy meal are the utmost requirements of a happy life. With God’s blessing I had all. So is the reason I have always been a bubbly girl. I was a person who could find happiness or can laugh in every situation. No I am not praising myself, I am just proud of my nature. I did not have that big gang of friends out in every corner but yes few who are gem at heart. My family was a nuclear one with as such no big gang of cousins at all. I actually had a fairy tale life but little did I know what was waiting for me in the future. A single wrong turn and everything went off forever.

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I was in class 11 when all this started off. Since then I have always been  fun loving and I was in so much demand among all my friends. Actually not just friends but in the whole school. I had so many good friends, few quite close as well. It was April 12 when he asked me to be his friend, I thought there is no issue in being just friend so I accepted his offer. With time we became quite good friends. We used to talk a lot, it was like never ending conversations. I really started enjoying his company. If a day went on without talking to him I felt empty inside. I started sharing each and every happening of my life with him. If anything left off that I forgot to share with him I started to feel impatient. I was never like this. Sometimes I felt like he had done some magic on me. I didn’t realize when feelings for him started to born inside me. It was the first and last thing I hid from him. I didn’t want him to think how desperate I was although I was not at all desperate but that’s what people usually think. No he was not like other guys but still he was a genuine human being. Moreover I had no idea about his feelings. I deadly wanted to know but the fear of his negative answer stopped me every time.

This was the first time I went through the so called feeling of stress. As I told you I always had a perfect life so I have never went through any of the so called feelings like stress, emotional pain, trauma. They were not in my dictionary. I was so much away from them. It is not that during that time I was stressed but I was just not me. Yes, with this feeling I felt like I was losing myself. But as always I was blessed, for he saved me. Finally the most awaited day of my life came, he finally expressed his feelings. He at last disclosed his love for me. I was on cloud nine that day. I just couldn’t stop blushing. I still remember clearly how easily my mother came to know about my relation for I couldn’t stop blushing all day. Every time his single call or text would come and there I was, just smiling. They say it does happen at that age. But I was really enjoying that time. Those were the best moments of my life. We were far different from other couples. We never fought, not even a single argument. We both understood the importance of that privacy, that space which a person needs in his or her life. I just had a perfect relation. When I went to another town for my further studies he decided to stay there only to start his own business. Even that time distance doesn’t change the things between us. We were good like before. We took out time for each other, continued our calls and chat, we even went for online dates. He always took great care of each and every need of mine and so did I. It was just perfect.

Within three years of our relation we both confessed everything at our homes also and as always there were no issues no chaos nothing. His family much happily accepted me and so did mine. We really didn’t have to go through that tough time of convincing everyone. Our families were really cool about our relation. His mother even advised me to make a good career first and then plan for wedding. I just simply accepted her advise, after all she was no less than my own mother to me. We both worked hard on our respected careers and got settled as well. His business started running off smoothly and I got my desired job. The time passed with its pace.

There came the most awaited day of our life our wedding day. After completing eight years of togetherness we finally tied the knot. My wedding was no less than a dream come true for me. We honestly waited for this day for a long time but we were so much occupied with responsibilities and duties that we had to wait for this day to come. My married life was no less than a surprise for me. Not even a single day after marriage I felt that I had left my own home. I felt I was still in my own home only. My in laws never took me as their daughter-in-law but they always treated me like their own daughter. Things were always good between us( me and my husband). Life was going on smoothly the way we had planned it, the way I had dreamt it to be. A year later we were blessed with a beautiful daughter. There were just waves of happiness all around. Finally my family, my AASHIYANA was complete.

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The time went with its flow and so did our life. We both were still deeply in love. Our daughter had completed her 5 years of toddlerhood. Then came the most unawaited day of my life. My husband used to stay out of town for days, mentioning that this outside city tours were part of his work and I simply believed it without even asking anything. It was that day when my fairy tale life came to an end. It was that day when my aashiyana ended completely.

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It was our daughter’s sixth birthday. My husband was on his business tour when out of no way he decided to surprise his angel. Even though he wanted to reach as soon possible to us, still being a responsible husband and a loving father, he maintained the speed of his car. But took a single wrong turn and our life ended, there my life ended. His car was hit by another car. I lost him at that instant, I lost the love of my life, my better half forever, my daughter lost her hero. I had completely lost interest in life from that day onwards. It was just impossible for me to live without him, he was my everything, he was my life. But I lived and I am still living for my daughter, I want her to live that fairy tale life which I always lived. I want her to be happy and I am glad, for she is happy.

I am sharing this story of mine to make all you readers realise that when you drive you have a responsibility. I didn’t make a case nor even I registered a complaint against those boys. I do not want their near ones to go through the same pain, the pain I am going through. I do not want their closed ones or anyone to suffer this feeling. To all young drivers

For you it could be fun but for someone it could be his life.

The Remains of the First Love Ever

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The Remains of the First Love ever

The Remains of the First Love Ever

I’d never known I’ll lose this feeling one day,

Love always won, they say.

It was definitely love at first sight,

No matter what, you always showed me the right.

I still remember your shy face in the mirror,

Seeing you in any kind of pain made me shiver.

When you smoothly pressed my hand against your chin,

The moment when you embraced me, it gave me goosebumps in my skin.

When I wanted to die, you were there beside me,

Giving me millions of reasons to live, comforting me that I could touch the sky.

You brought me back on the proper track,

You possessed the cuteness which everyone else lacked.

That moment when your hand was in mine,

When we’re together, I know, we shine.

My heart still sometimes skips a beat when I see you,

Even though you pretend not to care, I know you do.

Butterflies still sometimes dance in my stomach when you call me,

You taught me to fight the impostors, and I too have found the key.

Accepting Loneliness

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When it all happens suddenly…

As a 17-year-old  girl from a really conservative family in Chennai, being sent to a city like Bangalore to study was itself a great thing. Accept it or not, I had a lot of untold (and even told ) taboos. At the very beginning, I had a cultural shock when I came here. I never knew a whole lot of college-goers will booze and smoke. Frankly speaking, leaving aside the feminist debates and taking into consideration the unsung cultural code of conduct at the place I hailed from,  it was balling over to especially look at girls doing that. It all started because of that one momentary flash of inferiority complex.  That little thought of “Am I not good enough ?” That sudden fear of missing out on a whole lot. That feeling of not being able to relate to those presumably hi-fi people around me who would never like me or make an effort to talk. That painful processes of mental self-body shaming just because I am fat. Everyone around me would be jamming random English songs that I’ve never heard of before and I’d just stand there doing nothing. They will all go around partying, boozing and touring, and I’ll sit in my hostel room talking over the phone, chatting, studying or doing some other work. All this would make me feel odd and inferior.

Accepting Loneliness

I had this problem of not being able to talk coherently in a casual conversation in the moments I felt inferior. I’d mess up while talking and feel irritated just after that. I’d constantly miss my people back in Chennai who made up a big part of my life. I’d miss being comfortable with someone. I’d miss home and literally, I’d miss being myself. With about 80 students in my class to talk to and a roommate back in my hostel, I’d still feel lonely. I was so freaked out that I was desperate to get a friend, to be honest.

It was really tough to go from a happy-go-lucky girl who had so many friends and a great life to a loner in college in just a flash. Of course, this did happen gradually, and I did have a few friends in the beginning, but yes! Differences and sensitivity of people just plays the trick so well. Being discriminated by a young, supposedly civilized woman of the 21st century, just because I’m a south Indian or rather a Tamilian who actually can speak in Hindi but did not do so due to the inferiority complex again, was something I never expected.

Accepting Loneliness

I don’t know if people would admit, but, many of us fail to accept our loneliness. Now that is one of the main barriers that stalls the possibility to have a great life even after being a loner. Half the battle is won there itself. No one would come and tell you this but it’s all going to be fine one day. One will surely get used to it and be happy. People who want will surely make an effort to stop by.I learnt, in a rather hard way, that it is so simple after all to take life as it comes and just go with the flow. Of course, it isn’t easy to not feel bad when someone keeps asking you to shift a seat in class/anywhere else to sit with their group because you’re alone, but, it isn’t that hard to just let it go. It actually IS peaceful this way. I may still not have a good friend to talk to or go out with and flashes of loneliness/ inferiority complex here and there, but, I’m happy, with myself and whatever I presently have. I got over this feeling and learnt to believe things will get better one day.I’m proud of this. And so should every soul feeling this way. When there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can’t harm you.

A Girl In My Life : Episode 1

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A Girl In My Life

This is a cute Love story which will be published in episodes.

Surely it will hit you!!!… Enjoy reading it!!!!…

Episode 1:

It had been two months since we joined college and we knew each other in the class by their names and our friends gang started to build up. “We are planning to go for a movie on Saturday. How many of you would be interested?” one Thursday at the end of the day, our class representative asked this. All of us raised our hands except Nethra. He said, “Okay, interested people, please bring 120 bucks tomorrow so we can book the tickets as fast as we can” All of us tapped our desks with joy. There was a lot of fun during class and off class hours. All of us started to go out for movies, restaurants, birthday parties etc, except her…

A Girl In My Life : Episode 1

Nethra used to be alone and aloof always. She used to sit in the last bench and never spoke with anyone. All the other students were scared to talk to her as she was grumpy and a cranky person. She had displayed her anger many a times with other students. She was good looking but I think she would look beautiful if she smiled because no one had ever seen her smiling. Her pet name was “Miss Long Face”. None of us in the class liked her but she used to do her assignments and record works promptly and had a good name among the lecturers. She was good at studies too and class topper while I used to rank from 4th to 7th.

One day as usual all the boys in the class were discussing about the girls in the college; when the topic went on her. One boy said, “I pity her husband he is gonna have tough time with this girl”. Another boy said, “The person who makes her smile will be an extraordinarily talented person because she is such a bad tempered girl”. One jumped up and said, “Is there anybody who is ready for a challenge?” Everyone asked “What will be the challenge and the bet?” He said, “1000 bucks”. “What’s the challenge?” everyone asked. He said, “The challenge is to be friends with Miss Long face”. Since the bet and challenge was attractive I was interested in trying it; so I took up the challenge.

I thought of a plan to befriend her and as per my plan I did not attend the entire day’s class the next Monday. On Tuesday when I went to class I asked my friends, “What were the assignments or records that were given yesterday?” They said, “The Chemistry record needs to be completed till date and the deadline to submit for corrections is on Friday” I said, “Oh, just three days for Friday. Has anybody completed the record?” They said, “No, not yet. We have lot of experiments pending to be completed”

I went to her and said, “Hi Nethra”

I asked, “Have you completed the chemistry record?”

Sternly she said, “Yes”.

I said, “I did not attend the last chemistry class and I heard that we need to submit the record by this Friday. Nobody else in the class has completed it so it would be great if you could lend me your record. I’ll return it tomorrow”. With lots of hesitation she gave me the record and in a warning tone

She said, “Handle it carefully and return it tomorrow without fail”.

I took the record notebook from her and intentionally left it at home on the day I promised to return it back in order to develop friendship. I was so impressed by the way she has maintained it. Her handwriting was beautiful and the highlighting & markings, presentation of the record was mind blowing. I liked her record and I liked her too, but she was a mystery. I was curious to find out the secret behind her callous nature.

On Wednesday she asked me, “Where is my record?”

“Your presentation skill is very impressive” I said.

She asked, “Where is my record?”

“I complimented about your record” I said

She said, “I don’t need your compliment, I need my record?”

“I didn’t complete it yet, shall I give it tomorrow?” I asked

“I need it by tomorrow without fail” furiously she said and turned to leave my desk.

“Can you remind me in the morning so I won’t forget? Please and this is my number” saying this I wrote my number on a piece of paper and gave it to her as she was about to leave.

She plucked the paper and walked off rapidly without saying anything. I knew this was the right way to get her number.

On Thursday morning she called me early in the morning and said, “Nethra here, called you to remind about the record book” saying this she disconnected the call.

As soon as I came to the class she asked, “My record book”

I searched my bag and hit my head and said, “Oh I am sorry, it’s not there in my bag, I forgot to bring it. Give me your address after the class I will bring it to your home”.

She said, “I know you’ll do like this. Irresponsible fellow, that’s why I hesitated to give it. Okay I will wait near the college entrance in the evening, bring it to the college”.

I said, “It will be late and you have to wait for a long time. My home is far away and it is my fault so I will bring it to your home”.

Stubbornly she said the same thing again, “I will wait near the college entrance till you get it. Around what time will be here?”

I said, “6. 30 pm”

She said, “I’ll wait in the library till you reach the college. Once you reach the college give me a call and then I’ll come out”

I said, “Okay, sounds good.”

Will he come back with the record notebook?

This is the story I read years back on whatsapp. Credits for this story goes to the original authors..

To know it wait for some time…

 

15 websites that will boost your productivity

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The world wide web has completely revolutionized the way we communicate, do business or entertaining thanks to the internet. We are blessed to live in the era of the 21st century where there is a wealth of information on the internet

In this article, we have gathered 15 websites that will help you to make a smarter person and boost your productivity every day

1.Archive.org : A nonprofit digital library who is on the mission of universal access to all knowledge. It provides free public access to collections of digitized materials, including websites, software applications/games, and nearly three million public-domain books.

2.Lang-8.com : Write posts in a language you’re trying to learn, get them critiqued by a native speaker and in favor of return help that native speaker learns your language.

3.Engineerguy.com: Bill will help you out to break out the various feat of engineering in layman terms through videos.

4.Sporcle.com: A trivia quiz website that will help you to enhance your general knowledge.

5.Forvo: You can learn how to pronounce any word.

6.Furturelearn: A massive open learning platform founded in 2012 offers a broad range of topics with better content quality.

7.Skillshare: It is based on the idea that anyone with a real-world skill whether it’s starting a business or designing anyone can be a teacher.

8.Vumble : Check out the videos that have the highest number of upvote. What internet watches you watch.

9.Noisli: Put the earphones and mix different sounds and create an amazing environment to boost your productivity.

10.Studyblue: Make your own study sets and create your flashcards. You will Quiz yourself, track your progress and study what you need to know.

11.Difference between: It is a website that has a collection of articles ranging from nature to technology between similar terms and things.

12.University of Reddit : Learn some amazing stuff from the reditors ranging from excel to data analytics it will help you to develop every day.

  1. English Grammar Secrets: To learn english grammar in layman terms this has more than just explanations.
  2. Good.is:  A website that will help you to learn some great things on the internet through infographics.
  3. Ninite: A website that hat lets users automatically install popular applications for their Windows operating system.

 

Partition : A Vague Idea of Freedom

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There have been times when winds were drowsy and waters were still. Perhaps, the time when our emotions were in the hands of Englishmen. Probing deep into this topic, you may come across a feeling that is not less than nostalgia.
I feel deep inside everybody, there is an urge for national security that unfolds differently. In fact, this is something one not just wishes to have but actually feels it through the leaders that represent our nation.

Partition phase has been one of those examples. It had become obligatory for people to be a part of it, otherwise their own body parts would have been parted. When the two leaders representing each other’s communities parted ways, the country became as if disrobed.
Two names were being given to two communities and two names were given to two different kinds of people.
In fact, the night of Independence acted so cruelly to many. Under the shield of freedom many were tortured. While emotional dependence was shattered, the political strategies were emerging.

Partition : A Vague Idea of Freedom

The ideology of diversion comes with the power of politics. Perhaps, this authoritorial guidance is what we accepted from Western Colonialism. Power to have Power. Power to show Power. Power to break Power.

The strife between two communities took itself to such an extent that streets became red with bloodshed. The railway junction became a hell itself. That free life culminated into death.

Partition wasn’t a cartographic move. It was an idea. By that I mean, an idea to exercise power. This was an ideological battle fought through “unknown” perceptions. Because those who knew it, were already harmless.

Now after so many years of Partition, the crisis hasn’t come to an end. We still live under cliched images of communities.

Partition : A Vague Idea of Freedom

The border attacks set a sense of judgement of Patriotism. Many of our martyrs have set themselves ablaze to protect the country. They represent the nation on LOC. The unaware “common people” see what they are made to see and hence demand that battle which not only results in struggle of martyrs but set the whole country on peace.

This ideology talks about differences. This ideology talks about dichotomies. It never talks about similarities and thus this ‘illusionist patriotism’ comes forward.
This division crisis is still prevalent. Microscopically speaking, it has its base in every aspect of society. There are conflicts among ruling parties that struggle to achieve power. There are conflicts among castes that fight for better images. Dichotomy of Upper Class and Lower Class and many more.

Partition : A Vague Idea of Freedom

Partition acts as a base upon which so many divisions stand. This fight is with oneself for the sake of nation. Whereas, we have been addressing to an idea which ideally reproduces hatred. Remember that War brings “a-never-ending-war” itself. Do not let this Partition happen again. Because:

“Hatred is catastrophic,
Without peace.
Live with freedom,
Without being seized.”

Strange Thing Is LOVE …. Episode 4

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strange-thing-is-loveNext day, as Zoya was on her way to office, she saw some roadwork going in hence she took a different route. Traffic jam! God how she hated it. She glanced sideways and her heart gave a big lurch, Shekhar was sitting in the vehicle right next to her. She wanted to slide down and hide herself but before she could devise a plan, he turned and their eyes met. Man! Those eyes, once again she was drawn to him. He smiled his million-dollar smile or so she used to call it during her college days. Every time he smiled, his lower lip used to curl and these naughty dimples danced on his cheeks which made girls swoon and drool over him. Shekhar pulled down his car window and asked her about her destination, “Rajarhat,” Zoya replied. “Hop in, I will drive you,” he offered but she refused. Bravo! She patted her back. Much to her horror, he came out of the car, gave some instructions to his driver and opened her cab door.

Zoya had no idea why he was behaving like this. No sooner did he settle next to her, he said, “Please don’t get intimidated but I have something very important to discuss with you,” he took a pause, Zoya widened her dark eyes signaling him to continue, “I have read your pieces on Facebook and went to your blog. Zoya, you have immense talent and I don’t want you to waste it, I want you to write a book.” Zoya was quite perplexed because here was this media tycoon sitting next to her who had just now behaved like an impulsive teenager, and now he was suggesting that she write a book. Does it mean he has reading her write-ups if so then what was his take on it? What did he feel? What was his reaction? Did he like what she wrote? Her mind was overcrowded by such questions but she just gawked at him. Typical of her, this is how she behaved when he was around.

shekhar-and-zoyaShekhar continued explaining things to her but all she could see were those green eyes and shabby locks. No noise of blaring horns disturbed her, no over speeding vehicles could distract her, slowly she lost herself in those eyes, she could just look at those lips moving but could not decipher what he said, “Agar Tum Saath Ho from Tamasha,” buzzed in her purse and jolted her from the reverie. It was her phone ringing, just a few days ago Shekhar had shared one his favorite tracks on Facebook, Zoya had been listening to it ever since and kept it as her ringtone. Shekhar’s expressions were indecipherable but he was surely amazed. “Thanks aunty,” Zoya spoke with someone over the phone, “No, there are no birthday plans, I am on my way to office.” There was a slight pause as she listened to her aunt on the other end, she sighed and said, “Please don’t call me a birthday girl, it reminds of a Hollywood crime thriller.” This peaked Shekhar’s interest, he took out his phone and checked something, ahan! So it was her birthday today, realized he.

As the call got finished, Shekhar said, “Zoya, you are taking a day off today and we are going out, I will not take no for an answer.” Before she could open her mouth to say anything, he asked the driver to stop, and got off with her. Luck was on their side, there was a Café Coffee Day joint, Shekhar said, “Let’s go and make plans for today.” As he moved in, he stopped and said, “Please do call up your office and let them know, I am sure they will be happy to see you enjoying your birthday leave.” Zoya was slightly miffed by his domineering behavior, however, in her heart of hearts she loved his impulsiveness.

The next few hours were like a whirlwind, Shekhar called up his driver and told her to make plans. Initially, she was a little bit hesitant but then she thought that there will not be another today. She decided to make the most of her present. For once, she decided to let go. As per her plans, first they went to an amusement park, both of them stood out due to two reasons, firstly, undoubtedly they made the heads turn due to their alarmingly perfect pairing and secondly, both of them were too mature to behave like kids as they enjoyed different rides dressed in their formals.

zoya-and-shekhar-having-funShe laughed and clapped gleefully when he shot goals after goals in the basketball net. It was a game where if you score five goals in seven attempts you get a soft toy. Shekhar scored seven goals and received a giant size teddy bear. He looked incredulously at Zoya as she jumped and clapped, taking slow strides, he moved to her and stretched out the soft toy to her, “Happy Birthday Zoe!” It was the way he looked at her, Zoya felt like the most beautiful girl in the world.

Shekhar had never seen anyone so naïve and pure. He was surrounded by fake glamour, artificial joy and plastic smile. For the first time in his life, he was feeling alive. It was her easy disposition which provided him with peace and tranquility. The more time he spent with her, the more he got drawn to her. After amusement park, they went to a Sci-fi movie. She was full of life and surprises. She whistled and screamed when Wolverine aka Hugh Jackman appeared on the screen. He smiled sheepishly as people turned to look at them. This girl had so many different layers to her personality, all different and each unique. The movie rolled in front of him but his mind was somewhere else, he was taken back in time. He remembered Zoya in her college days, shy timid girl who was always huddled in the midst of a group of girls or hovered around the library. They used to exchange greetings, and every time he greeted her, she used to flush red and hurry towards her class. Many at times he had seen her looking at him but was too confused to make out anything of it because every time he looked at her, she used to turn her head away. He had also tried to strike a conversation with her a couple of times but there was nothing which signaled that she was interested in talking to him.

Post movie dinner consisted of pizza which once again was Zoya’s choice. She giggled while biting on her slice of pizza, “Today was the best birthday ever, in fact best day ever, Shekhar, you should meet me quite often, God I am feeling so alive after ages…” Zoya carried on telling Shekhar how good she felt, the excitement in her voice, the twinkle in her voice, the flush on her cheeks…. Shekhar felt like losing himself in the child of this remarkably intelligent and extraordinarily unique girl.

Things no one will tell you about relationship

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Relationship the word can be used in various terms. It could be a relationship with your father, mother, sister, brother or best friend for that matter. But here I am specifically talking about your relationship with your loved one – can be husband, wife or your boyfriend, girlfriend. Now we all know that relationship never starts with reading a user manual. Before getting into a relationship no one tells us about the dos and the don’ts of it.  Actually, there are no certain rules or guidelines to start a relationship. You fall in love because you feel for the person.

Every love story or relationship has its ups and downs, but what is important is to stand strong through them and survive through it together. When someone else’s happiness is your happiness that is love.  We all know there are no rules for relationships, but a quick read through the article won’t harm.

Understand that men and women are different from each other

Very essential for both the sexes to understand each other and accept the way they are. Understanding and celebrating the difference will make living together more fun, peaceful and interesting. Take each other’s differences in a sporting and positive way to stay away from a messy relationship.

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Don’t waste your time in being angry

Anger is the relationship killer! You are in a relationship and I know it’s not going to be easy but all you could do is hold on to each. Don’t fall apart just because you are angry at your partner. If you are annoyed at your partner, wait – give yourself some time calm down and gently discuss it. Thinking about the problem in a calm state of mind helps you to find a better solution.

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Stay best friends

Some of you may find it very unromantic but, those who live it find it to be the best part of the relationship. But trust me staying best friends is much more fun being in a relationship.

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Give what you want to get

Our needs change with time. It’s very simple, let’s not complicate it – if you want to feel understood by your partner – trying being more understanding. If you want to feel more love and care – try giving more.

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Do small things for each other

You don’t have to make a sweeping romantic gesture to get the spark in your relationship. I personally feel that small gestures are more meaningful than large fancy gestures. For instance, buy your partner his/her favorite snack or buy a rose that would instantly get a smile on his/her face. It’s not that difficult, try once!

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Discuss what you want in life

We all know men and women are different from each other so are their interests. Have a healthy conversation and discussion about what you want out of life – like the career goals, any specific place your partner wants to visit with you it could be any damn thing, all you got to do is talk and listen to each other.

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Apologize after a fight

We have been taught to apologize since we were kids, because apologizing won’t make you a smaller person. Also apologizing doesn’t always mean you’re wrong and the other person is right but it means that you value your relationship more than your ego.

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You are now officially armed with the comprehensive routine to shape your relationship. Relationships can be extremely rewarding and a source of joy. Don’t complicate it, it is a beautiful feeling to love and to be loved. Stay happy and keep loving!

Yet Apart

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I stay silent, amongst my twinkling peers,
As I watch the eight year old, who fears,
Compelling his mother to move his toys inside,
Lest they get lonely and scared in this night sight.
I’m in a shape, yet shapeless,
I’m surrounded by many, yet alone,
I provide the earth calmness and peace,yet restless,
The sunlight tingles me with a shimmery moan,
Yet, I give out beauty and coolness.
I see one, I see all,
There are mermaids bathing in the fall,
And there, there the king is on his way,
Claws of gold, sharp and an armor hairy,
The lion breathes quietly, oh-stealthily,
Looking at the baby deer, drinking without any fear,
In a blink, the king gallops over,
And the king of gold feasts over the deer gold.
I see the blossoming buds, the sleeping birds,
When the stream winks at me and coyly smiles,
She takes my heart and I climb down to hers,

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Mates for the whole night, ah, yet apart,
She snuggles me warmly in her cold waves, dancing and giggling,
And before I can satiate myself with her curves,
The dawn comes chasing me, unwilling to quit the fight,
Heavy heartedly I bid goodbye to my mate,
With a promise of kissing her the night next.

Jamawar of Kashmir

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Kashmir produces many beautiful textiles every year, though now they have a uniformity of style. Jamawar is a fabric that has its roots deep down in Kashmir history. The beautiful Valley of Kashmir is justly famed for its textiles. Zain-Ul-Abidin, the ruler of Kashmir had brought weavers from Turkestan to the valley and laid the foundation of Kashmir Shawl Industry. The word Jamawar,  Jama means ‘a robe or shawl’ and War means ‘Yard’. It is an adulterated form of silk since it contains a blend of cotton and wool. Jamawar fabric is the oldest forms of woven art. It is made by hand with needles. It doesn’t involve any work, no machines work at all, only needle. Some shawls take a couple of years and months to complete. The high end variety of Jamawar shawl is Kanika Jamawar made from weaving sticks and the patterns. They are so finely done that the front and back of the shawl are identical. While Pashmina Jamawar shawl is made of Pashmina yarn obtained from goats mixed with cotton and wool, the main attention i.e., Jamawar Fabric draw is skilled embroidery work and flawless weaves. In early times, Jamawars were crafted out of pure silk. These shawls were exclusively worn by the aristocrat class and the royal. But with advanced technology and faster looms Jamawars are accessible to everyone nowadays.

Jamawar of Kashmir

Traditionally, Jamawar has been used for making shawls. But, now it is also used in designing Sarees, blouses, bedspreads, tablecloths, curtains, salwar kameez, kurtas, lehenga cholis and many more. The intricate paisley motifs and designs on a Jamawar fabric truly give this fabric a rich and distinctive look.

Jamawar of Kashmir

The Indian government in recent years has initiated and attempted some programs that work towards the revival of this art. A Shawl weaving center for promoting the production of Jamawar weaves at Kanihama in Kashmir has been opened. Rapid innovations are taking place to make Jamawar more popular in India as well as across whole world. Jamawar sarees, now have matching silk shawls attached to them to maintain the royal glory.  Jamawar Sarees are being woven using equal variants of silk like Pashmina Silk and Banarasi Silk. Weaving techniques from Bhutan are giving inspirations to Weavers. The Jamawar shawls are disappearing very rapidly because the weavers are not willing to take up the tedious task of this ancient style of weaving. It takes years to produce a jamawar shawl. The ancient style and the time spend is the reason why this antique form of weaving has not passed down from one generation to another. The younger generation have drifted to other professions in seek of good livelihood and less time consumption. The beauty and intricacy of this fabric has attracted the attention of high-fashion designers, who have chosen it repeatedly to use it in order to create gorgeous designer party-wear. Styling and accessorizing such a rich fabric requires a certain amount of attention to detail. For special occasions, one can stick with one or two pieces of classic Indian jewelry such as a Kundan necklaces, Polki earrings, diamond mang-tikkas or gold bangles. These will nicely complement the traditional, intricate aesthetic of Jamawar fabric. This textile industry has a significant presence in the Indian economy as well as in the international textile economy. Its contribution to the Indian economy is manifested in terms of its contribution to the industrial production, employment generation and foreign exchange earnings. Textile Industry is providing one of the most basic needs of people and holds importance; maintaining sustained growth for improving quality of life.

Jamawar of Kashmir