Sonakshi is bouncing back with 3 hand to hand movies
Sonakshi Sinha who made her venture into Indian Cinema with Sallu Mia’s Dabangg in 2010 is a shining star today. The actress who was last seen in Murugadoss’s Akira had hoped for the best from the film but unfortunately the film did not work in the Box Office. However, the efforts she put into the film did not go in vein and was much appreciated by the audience. The ‘Dabangg’ actress is still not disappointed and hoping for the best from her upcoming flicks like- Force 2, Noor and Ittefaq.
Here is more info about the movies-
Film Genre Cast Release Date
Force 2 Action & Thriller Sonakshi Sinha, 18 ,Nov, 2016
After the success of Force in 2011, director Abhine Deo came up with its sequel “ Force 2”. The film which is starring John Abraham and Sonakshi SInha in the lead role. John Abraham in the film will reprise his role of ACP Yashwardhan, whereas Sonakshi in the film will be seen as a RAW agent, who is an alpha in herself. Tahir Raj Bhasin, in the film, will play a role of bad guy who will try to kill all the RAW agents.
The film not only has hand-to-hand combat scenes, guns and chases but also internationally stylized scenes which will keep the viewers glued to their eyes. Force 2 is all set to release on 18 November,2016.
Noor
Sunhil Sippy’s Noor is a biopic of eminent Pakistani author Saba Imtiaz’s novel titled “Karachi, You’re killing Me!”. In the movie Sonakshi will play the role of a journalist who is trying to discover herself. Her character in the movie has a lot of shades and the film is based on Mumbai. The movie is scheduled to release on 7 April, 2017.
Ittefaq
The remake of Ittefaq features a fresh pair, Sonakshi Sinha and Sidharth Malhotra in the lead role. Whereas, the old version of Ittefaq (1969) starred Rajesh Khanna and Nanda in the lead role which was directed by successful film maker Yash Raj Chopra.However, its new version will be directed by his grandson Abhey Chopra. The story is basically a murder mystery where a painter loves his passion even more than his wife and one day in rage of anger shoots her.
How is the Abhey Chopra’s Ittefaq different from the old one?
Abhey Chopra’s Ittefaq is promising to be totally different from the earlier one. The new version of Ittefaq will not have the same killer and it will also have songs as a part of background score.
There are also some other upcoming flicks in this line like Namastey England, Amrita Pritam Biopic , 1969 (Anurag Basu next), Haseena – The Queen of Mumbai. the cast, genre, story line promo and release date will be updated to you as the news will be released.
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“POWER”- An attempt to define a term like this would be as futile as an attempt to define Psychology (the only science without a definition). It means something different to every individual, it is subjective. If we call him the most powerful man who conquers the world then what should he be called who conquers that invisible inevitable form, that supreme light, that mystery which lies beyond the limitless stretches of the sea of life, beyond that horizon- DEATH? My limited reading of Hindu Mythology has enlightened me to a rare form of power- the power to forgive. Not many gods possessed it, let alone humans. It is that inexplicable will, strength and magnanimity of a heroic heart. The story of one such heroic heart, the story of an abandoned hero, overshadowed by the gleam of divine glories enunciates the spirit of true power. It is that power-the power to forgive- that makes him a true hero.
Till death intervened…
Born of Pritha or Kunti as she is known, and the Sun God, this divine little figure was set afloat no sooner he was born to be gulped down by the high currents of the Ashva river by his mother who in order to save herself from the royal disgrace of being an unmarried mother, chose to forsake him. He was abandoned. Raised up as a charioteer’s son after battling the high tide of destiny, he went to learn the skills of archery from Guru Dronacharya who refused to teach him despite his incomparable prowess and meritorious person because he would not teach a charioteer’s son or because he knew more than anyone else that he would be an impediment in the path his favorite, Arjun. Nonetheless, he was abandoned. The insults had just begun for him, for he carried the burden of his caste everywhere he went. But, ambitious as he was, nothing could deter him from learning archery. Bearing the brunt of his truth and unable to repress his passion, he was furious and so took the impulsive decision to hide his identity. Young and bruised, he was unaware of the fatal consequences of a lie. He went to Guru Parshuram (who has sworn to teach archery to only Brahmins) to learn from him the art of bow and arrow. He was a diligent and the most obedient ‘shishya’ to his guru. With passion unconditional and service selfless, he grew up in the patronage and protection of Parshuram. Sometimes our biggest strength betrays us. He got betrayed by his inner strength and will power, his endurance and in a vague way his warrior blood. Bit by a poisonous insect, he did not budge lest his guru, resting in his lap, would have got disturbed. The guru astonished by this inordinate quality, believed to be possessed none but a kshtriya, understood that he has been cheated by someone posing to be a Brahmin. So, the guru didn’t blink before pronouncing one of his cruelest curses, overlooking his pupil’s dedication, spirit of endurance and forbearance over the years. And he too, abandoned him. He was humiliated in the most ignominious manner in the presence of almost all the imperial crowns by Panchaali, the only woman whom he secretly loved, again for the same reason, his caste. He was, thus, abandoned. His brothers, after nourishing the seeds of hatred for him throughout their lives, killed him by unrighteous means and mocked at his corpse with beastly satisfaction. He was abandoned.
An Ode to the Wronged
Generous enough to give away, without flinching, his golden armor and flesh earrings, not oblivious of its consequences and only to keep his vow, forgiving enough to pardon his bitterest of his enemies, he, who personified duty, loyalty, friendship and sacrifice, who possessed Yudhisthir’s righteous nature, Bheem’s strength, Arjun’s erudition and archery skills, and Nakul and Sahadev’s divine looks, was the abandoned hero of Mahabharata. He was Karna.
Sunder Pichai’s Cockroach theory has a lot to say –
“At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. She was panicky and wanted to get rid of the pest. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but it landed on another lady and the drama continued. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. He grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant. He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies. He further adds, “It is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me. More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life. I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond. The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded. Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.”
I belong to the 21st century. I belong to the era of memes, hate pages and Photoshop. If you want to know what my generation is up to, I can take you on an adventure that unravels after I login on my Facebook account. We are the generation who can be easily bought with objectifying lyrics and can invent a trending topic be it someone’s buttocks or some celebrity wardrobe malfunction. The point is with great freedom and power of information bestowed upon us we only seem even more directionless. We do not build opinions but manufacture reactions. We do not think about solution, we make things viral. In short we seem to combat issues with reactions and overreactions rather than sensible response. With immense exposure to information, opportunities and possibilities, the social-media-frenzied youth are yet to utilize the newly information-evolved present for the better rather than sensationalizing controversies. Generalizations cannot be made but in the era where a song called ‘ Pen-Pineapple-Apple–Pen’ gets a Guinness World Record, there is a need for enrichment of a more cultured, intellectual and reasonable youth.
Sensationalization and reaction
Tablets have replaced books, Terribly Tiny Tables have replaced novels and discussions have been replaced with a like, comment or a share button. In the drive of simplification and quickness, depth has lost its value. Can thoughts go beyond simply liking or sharing a particular topic? Do we even think before we like or share a picture comparing a potato and a singer? Do we need to share everything which says ‘according to research’? Do we need to simply write about what we had in dinner or share a picture which says ‘my laptop- dual core, my phone-octa core and my friends – haramcore’? There is nothing as infinite as what we can put in social media today. Yes we debate about Freedom of Speech and Expression but what happens when we all are simply reducing to a neurotic, narrow-minded, depth-less audience? An individual tiny little ‘like’ might not matter but what happens when it is a whole generation validating, reinforcing and spreading such non sensible disposition? As Pichai rightly says, “Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.” Sadly for youth, combating an issue has been reduced to a frenzy-motivated reaction. It only remains to be a medium to get more ‘likes’ or ‘share’ rather than a valid answer to a solution.
The Responding Responsibility
Information can be good and bad and we need to understand that it is just a matter of choice which makes use the information in a particular way. Social networking sites can be used to share personal opinions but one needs to know that it is not a diary nor it is a party where you meet people you know and interact. It is a network and a huge ocean of connections without limited ability to control communication. We must understand the sanctity of personal emotions, worries and relationships. Rebuking classmates on the comment section, writing an anonymous letter as an answer to a gossip, eruption of emotions after a proposal etc need not be a status. If one means these personally then it must remain personal. These emotions can be very real and might sound ‘status-worthy’ but it is indeed a wonderful skill to resolve our personal problems without making it a public issue (unless it definitely requires public attention) Therefore one must know how to maintain a personal identity and a ‘social-media-identity’ and do not mix both.
Given the way opinions are expressed these days (through memes, gifs etc) it is difficult to avoid these mediums but we must analyse the content of these mediums before sharing them. Some messages might be hurting the sentiments of a particular community or ideology and in return it only spreads more unwanted reactions and misinterpretations. One has the full right to agree and oppose anything. Why not find more about it, do more research on reliable sources about it, find the truth and see if we were at all biased? Then if we find an opinion at all lets write blogs, make short films about it etc so that people know more about it. As Netizens we need to be responsible and promote things that need to be heard.
We are the kids of the 21st century and we have a lot mentalities to change, narrow-mindedness to fight and new ideas to promote. Thanks to our quicker and newer inventions which facilitate us with information and social networking platforms to do so. Reducing these phenomenal inventions into superficial tools to cook more chaos and manufacture a neurotic, depth-less and purposeless youth is simply an indication of the making of a newly evolving dehumanized specie.
So, November is here once again, it’s that time of year when you’ll see a lot of beards- fluffy, shaggy and curly – beards of all sorts popping out here and there on the faces that remain quite clean for the rest of the year! As you can already guess I’m talking about “No-Shave November” guys! So what is this new craze all about? I think we can safely call it “new”, because this trend has gained this much popularity in the recent years.
What is No-Shave November? It certainly is more than just an excuse for lazy guys to avoid shaving for a month. The official No-Shave November website says “No-Shave November is a month-long journey during which participants forgo shaving and grooming in order to evoke conversation and raise cancer awareness.” Now, I know what you’re thinking, how exactly did cancer awareness come into the play, right? Bear with me, I am going to make everything clear to you. No-Shave November as their website says, is a web-based non-profit organization devoted to growing cancer awareness. They are raising funds to support cancer prevention in a unique way. They are encouraging people all over the world to give up shaving for one month and embrace the hair that many cancer patients lose, and to donate the money they would have otherwise spent on shaving to support the cause. How it all started? No-Shave November, without being tied to cancer prevention, had been a tradition for many years. Then in the year 2009, the Hill family from the suburbs of Chicago used it as a means to raise money for cancer research. The 8 Hill siblings lost their father Mathew Hill in November 2007, who passed away after fighting an 18 month long battle with colon cancer. Rebecca Hill, the oldest of the siblings and her friend Bret Rangdahl launched the No-Shave November campaign in the fall of 2009. It started out as a Facebook page. There were less than 50 participants in its first year. It started gaining momentum and more popularity with every passing year and in 2014 American Cancer Society partnered with them. Besides American Cancer Society they are now working with other organizations also, like Prevent Cancer Foundation, Fight Colorectal Cancer and St Jude Children’s Research Hospital. (A big round of applause for No-Shave November!)
So basically some the people who are growing a beard this month are doing it just for fun and to some, No-Shave November is an excuse to skip shaving, while the rest are doing it for a noble cause. If you too want to support this cause you may participate by officially registering on https://no-shave.org/. The rules are very simple: Just do not shave for 30 days and at the end of the month donate the money you have saved from it to the cause. And if your workplace has a strict dress code, fret not, grooming and trimming are totally acceptable. Also, if you don’t want to commit to shagginess for a month, or if you cannot grow a beard but still want to support their cause you can buy their merchandise from the website, they have got shirts and bracelets that promote the movement of No-Shave November.
And this is to girls and women, you can urge the men you have in your life to put down the razor for one month. A beard for a change will not be a bad thing. Aside from that, women can take part in this campaign too. All you have to do is to let the hair grow on your legs for a month and avoid waxing. It is almost halfway through November. So the next shaving day is about a fortnight away from now. If you couldn’t do it this year, but you’re willing, don’t worry November will be back next year again. Or you can just stop shaving now and let your fur grow wildly for the rest of the month.
My heart goes out to all of you. Yes you! To the millions, who are stuck doing the same desk jobs for years. It has made your life monotonous and bland. What you need is a change of weather. This is where travelling comes in. Travelling rejuvenates you. It broadens your mind and helps you get a fresher perspective on things.
Do you feel like you haven’t enjoyed life like you should have? That you’ve become prone to stress and anxiety? Don’t rush to your physicians for pills. The only dose you need is that of travelling. I can tell you from personal experience that it is the best therapy there is.
One of the concerns people have about travelling is “how to pay for such expensive trips? How does a person who makes 20-30 thousand a month visit these exotic places?” well the good news is that to be a satisfied traveler, exotic locations isn’t your only option.
In fact, most people I’ve met have never been to the “must visit” places in our country or even their respective states for that matter. You may not realize it, but there are many places to see just around the corner. I’ve come up with few of these places out of a very long list of possible options.
1. Andaman and Nicobar islands
One of the most underrated places is the Andaman and Nicobar Islands. With its beautiful beaches, seafood and festivals in galore, it has not received the hypes it deserves.It is situated near Myanmar and is considered a tropical paradise.It is like our own little “Hawaii”.
Other places you can visit include: Radhanagar Beach, Cellular jail, Barren Island etc.
2. Sikkim
This is a place for all you spiritual seekers.Full of Buddhist monasteries and tall, mesmerizing hills, this place will make you feel at peace.Also, its cuisine is an amalgamation of Indian and Chinese cuisine that is a rare treat to your taste buds.You can also see the Chinese border a few kilometers from the capital city.
Other places to visit include: Nathula Pass, Changu Lake, Ranka Monastery etc.
3. Rajasthan
When you think of Rajasthan, you think of palaces, of royalty and of fascinating stories about the legendary Rajputs.Indus Valley Civilization at Kalibanga is a must visit historical site.The Dilwara Temples, a Jain pilgrimage site at Rajasthan’s only hill station, Mount Abu, in the ancient Aravalli mountain range are some of the places to visit while in Rajasthan. Rajasthan is also home to two national tiger reserves, the Ranthambore National Park in Sawai Madhopur and Sariska Tiger Reserve in Alwar.
Other places to visit include: Hawa Mahal, Thar dessert, Jaipur- the pink city.
4. West Bengal
For all those travellers who love architecture, and history, this is a place for you to visit.Rich in culture, heritage and architecture, west Bengal is one of the few places that has preserved the monuments and artefacts of the British era. Kolkata, Darjeeling, Tiger hill, Siliguri, Digha, Sundarban, Bakkhali are few of the travel spots here. West Bengal is also a better option for people with limited budget as it offers cheap accommodation and transportation.
Other spots to visit include: Darjeeling Mountain Hills, Digha Sea Beach, Murshidabad Historical City etc.
Next big problem that most travelers face is how to manage budgets.
What adds to that problem is that most of us Indians travel in packs. When you have a limited budget and a huge family, it puts you in a tight spot. Here are a few tips to save up.
Book large dormitories — they are the cheapest alternative to hotels and can house large families.
Hire a local as a guide — travel with locals who can act as a guide and help you save a little money.
Eat where the locals eat — fancy restaurants can put a big dent in your pocket. So instead, eat where the locals do and that will ensure a good meal while helping you curb expenses.
So get out there. Get your luggage and be on the move. Once you start travelling, you are guaranteed to get addicted. So keep calm and keep travelling!
With college exams approaching, we can see everyone around us finally waking up from their long sleep and running around for notes and books and clearing last minute doubts. Amidst this chaos and a race for marks, we often forget to take care of ourselves and end up with bad eating habits, sleepless nights, lazy bodies and stress.
What most people don’t get is that keeping ourselves healthy during this time is just as important as studying. So, let’s look at some things you should keep in mind while preparing for your exams:
EXERCISE
Indulging yourself in some physical exercise is a great way to take your mind off from studies for a while. It freshens your mind, improves your blood flow, helps you refocus and most of all, keeps you fit!
MEDITATION
Exams can stress you out and sometimes that may lead to lack of concentration. Meditation helps you to de-stress and boosts concentration. There is a wide range of apps that introduce you to guided meditation.
ADEQUATE SLEEP
Inadequate sleep is detrimental to health and may curb your ability to recall what you studied the night before. And if it’s the night before the exam day, well, you might find yourself dozing off while writing your exam! So, it’s important to get a good night’s sleep of about 6 to 7 hours, so that you wake up fresh.
LESS CAFFEINE
We often look for ways to pull an all-nighter and the first thing that comes to our mind is coffee, or maybe Redbull, or any other drink with caffeine in it that keeps us awake. However, excess consumption of caffeine may have side effects like light headedness, agitation and even anxiety. So, caffeine consumption should be minimized. Simply staying hydrated can improve alertness.
TAKING REGULAR BREAKS
Frequent breaks should be taken to unwind and freshen up. Just learn a thumb rule for this- divide your time between studies and break in 5:1 ratio. For example, after every 50 minutes of study, take a 10-minute break!
DO SOMETHING YOU LIKE
Take some time out for your hobbies. Play your instrument, read your favourite book, play football or maybe watch your weekly program. Anything that relaxes you would suffice.
STUDY SNACKS
It is common for our minds to wander off to food while studying. And often, it is the food that we probably shouldn’t be eating like chocolate, chips, fried snacks etc. But it is important to substitute these with the following, more healthy study snacks:
1. NUTS
Nuts like almond, cashew and walnut are packed with omega-3 fatty acids, protein and fibre which keeps us energized.
2. SEEDS
Pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds and flax seeds contain amino acids that lower anxiety levels.
3. BERRIES
Blueberries, strawberries and cherries are loaded with vitamins and antioxidants which help in keeping our mind focused and sleeping patterns consistent.
Keep a jar full of nuts, seeds and berries on your study table and munch on them whenever you crave for a snack.
THE NIGHT BEFORE
Lay out everything you might need for the exam the night before and don’t leave anything for the morning. Sleep early so that you wake up fresh, eat a good breakfast and smash it!
All the best for your exams, people! Hope you find these tips helpful!
“Blogs, Bloggers, Blogging, Blog posts,” Uff !! Ever heard of “Blogging”, or “Blog”?? And wonder what on earth is this Blog and blogging?? well, You have come to the right place. I Aishwarya have made this article to help all those people out there who have no clue what Blogging is all about.This article will help you clear all your doubts on Why should you blog ?
What is a Blog?
Composition blog accessories on white background. Blogger workspace
First of all let me tell you what exactly is a blog through a definition, it will help you understand better..
“a collection of posts… short, informal, sometimes controversial, and sometimes deeply personal.. with the freshest information at the top.” – Meg Hourihan
So yes, a blog is a kind of online diary or a journal where people pen down their thoughts opinions etc. that can be expressed without fear and desire to let people know their individual thoughts through a website.
WHO BLOGS??
Anyone who
Do not fear what people think about his/her post.
Loves writing down things on a routine basis.
Is looking forward to reaching out to a mass group of people.
Has a passion for writing
Why Should You BLOG ??
Each day about 1,72,000 blogs are created. So many blogs being created every day, you might be wondering, “ Can I blog ? “, “Should I start blogging?” I think you should try your hand at it ,
!! Definitely yes!!
Before I start let me tell you about my short story.
I am someone who has vivid kinds of hobbies – Reading, Arts and Crafts, Embroidery, jewelry making, but I was never into any writing as such. Then I got into the book tube community, and I realized that there are thousands of people who blog on various things – books, personal blogs, travel, Hobbies, etc. The list goes on and then, I thought “ what if I too start a blog ?? ” , I was not sure if I would succeed but I wanted to start a blog on book reviews and I started one. Though I do not get much time, I blog whenever I can. So here I am as a blogger.
So here I pen down 10 reasons Why should you blog?
1. Discover your hidden talent
Blogging helps you discover your hidden talent for Writing, maybe it was within you from the very beginning and you never realised that. Start a blog and trust me you will realise that you had writing skills and it was never discovered until you started to blog.
2. Voice your thoughts
You can express your thoughts, feelings and opinions out there through a blog, there are so many thousands of people out there to support your thoughts and opinions.
3. Build your Confidence
Smiling influencer woman sitting in front of camera recording video blog for fashion blog
I can swear on this, it definitely helps you build your confidence in life even if there’s very less number of blog followers, because you are able to voice your thoughts without much fear as and when you keep blogging. Your confidence improves to a larger extent making you a better person. (I can bet you on that..!!! Haha … It’s my personal experience.)
4. Helps you learn new things
Blogging is all about sharing things you know, visuals you see, topics of your interest. When you start a blog you definitely learn new things of your interest via other bloggers etc. The key of blogging is to blog on a routine basis without running out of fuel – ideas!! Keep it simple and informative.
5. It is challenging
Yes!! Let me be honest, at times yes there are a few challenging situations/tasks which we face at some or the other point of life. Blogging is one such challenging task. Blogging is something which is easy and challenging at the same time.
Starting a blog is easy, but managing the same is not. At the initial days you might blog regularly, later on you step down to blogging less often you will have to overcome that. Also coming up with new topics, ideas, involving readers and fellow bloggers around your blog is one hell of a challenge, but do not give up on learning and discovering new blog posts you will definitely succeed.
6. Makes you Happy
Happy blogger
When does someone become happy?? Exactly!! We become happy when we do things we love, we become happier when our blog post is accepted by people out there, and we become happy seeing the positive comments and appreciation we get. (Ignore the negative comments)
I blog on books, and on a personal note, I become happy at the end of every blog post I make/ book reviews I give. Nothing matters more than our own happiness and satisfaction on the priority list of our blog posts.
7. Helps you connect
Typing new blog post.
Blogging helps you connect to people over the world; in fact you can make new friends who have similar interests/hobbies. People connect to you, when your ideas/thoughts appeal to them and they interact with you .
The blogging community out there is real friendly, cheerful and definitely encouraging to the bloggers out there – the only thing missing is you having a blog to experience all this.
8. It serves as a personal journal
Blogging serves the same role as a personal journal.. How?? When we blog more regular it acts as a personal journal, it helps us to track our life and growths we experience. Your blog acts as a digital journal of your life that helps you pen down all thoughts.
9. Inspiration to others
Blogging not just helps you pen down your thoughts, it also changes the life of the readers to a great extent. When you contribute your time, energy and efforts to write a piece of article for your blog you are actually inspiring people around you, since blogs are public and free to access, anyone in need of your piece of article seeks inspiration from you.
10. Make some money
People do not blog for money, but earn money through your hobby – blogging definitely motivates bloggers to keep the blog going. So basically earning money is the trigger that keeps you motivated to blog more and more.
It is not necessary for you to earn through blogging, it is just an option to earn; you are always free to blog with or without monetary benefits.
GO START YOUR BLOG
If one or more of the above reasons motivate you or made you think “ why not try blogging” go for it.
If you think you have it in you to start a blog and can keep it going, what are you waiting for?? Go start your blog and build your identity in the internet world. If any of you guys start a blog after reading this article, please do leave the links to your blog down below, I would visit them and feel proud of you guys.
If you made it all the way down here reading, thank you guys for reading
“I fell in love how we fall asleep, slowly and gradually and then all at once.”
Hostel life has its pros and cons. Some days you are so engrossed that you cannot even find time to have an appropriate meal and some days you are so free that getting up from the bed seems futile. There was one weekend when everyone left hostel to go home, and me and my roommate decided to stay back because my friend’s parents were out exploring, Kerala. So, I decided to not let her stay alone and be her partner in crime to enjoy the weekend together.
Throughout the day, we were using our respective phones while gorging on the namkeen to satisfy our hunger. Suddenly she suggested that I should to talk to a new guy and I agreed that I needed it too. After the absinthe breakup I had a few months ago and it’s been too long that I have been single. So I had a plan, that we both would set each other with a guy.
Sounds alluring, well it’s exceptional, how even the smallest of decisions can change the course of your life. We called our friends and asked for a guy who is single, and tried our best to sell the qualities of our friends. After a while, we both accomplished our goals and started talking to the new guy. We had the best of time while laughing about the conversation we both had with our respective guys. I don’t think that the two of us has ever chuckled this much while chatting.
And that is how I started talking to the Love of my Life. Since that day we started to get to know each other. We both were in same year of our respective studies. We both had a broken heart and tried to mend it. We both were looking for a friend to confide in. Instead we found Love.
We used to chat daily which later converted into phone calls. Making fun of each other, talking about daily happenings and taking advice from each other, were the highlights of our days. After meeting each other the infatuation grew stronger. But our lips could never cumber up to say the words our eyes were talking about. There was no way I wanted to sabotage the best thing that ever happened to me.
After about 8 months of chatting daily, came the dry spell. I was going on a trip with college friends at a higher altitude and we made a pact to “stay away from internet. The distance was much needed to comprehend the true feelings.
Distance did exactly what I wanted. As soon as I came back from the trip, I was astonished to find him at the Delhi Railway Station waiting for me with bananas in his hands. We had a little banter once, and the bananas mean much more to us rather than any elementary fruit. He didn’t propose or ask me anything. Our eyes again did the talking and our Forever commenced.
“Forever is a long time; but I wouldn’t mind spending it with you.”
It was my 16th birthday. And as any teenager would dream of, I wanted it to be as special as possible. Friends, cake, gifts, music, party and what not. But my dad drove me to a place I never expected. My face fell on seeing a rusted board that read OLD AGE HOME. With pent up disappointment and hesitation I walked in not knowing why I was there. But the moment I saw the smile glowing on the wrinkled cheeks welcoming me, I understood. The contentment and blessed feeling of spending time with them was inimitable. On the other hand I wondered why should there be a need for old age homes.
India is known for its strong family structure and emotional bondage within the family. The uniqueness of Indian culture, the symbol of solidarity is the “Joint Family system”. It has helped India to carry the tradition and legacy to next generations. But lately, modernization has caused the fading values of taking care of parents. Affectionate attachments between mother and son, father and daughter, brother and sister still exist but restricted to the box office movies. In reality, it is depressing to watch old age homes budding in every corner of this culturally rich country. Isn’t that a paradox by itself? Here are five major things to understand why this scenario prevails and why it is important to change it.
Old age is a symbol of rich experience
For even a clerical job or accountant post we ask for enough experience. But to run a family we do not want experienced parents, who have brought us to this world with abundance of love and affection. Most often we fail to understand that they have gone through much more hardships than we have. Their life experience holds immense practical knowledge that can make our lives simpler.
Misconception of privacy
‘Privacy’ is a word which was more often misunderstood by youngsters. They start feeling parents as a burden to their fantasies. This has resulted in the old age homes. The olden Indian houses had huge common areas or verandah’s where people lived socially. Now a days Kids get irritated even if they are called out of the room to have dinner with family.
Need Love, not Luxury
Any parent will not expect a golden cage, in old age. A posh shelter, scheduled three meals a day, doctor on call, and all the in-gated amenities etc would not match to the happiness they get from affectionate children and loving grandchildren. If they don’t find satisfaction in their most sensitive period of life they would end up in regret. the affection of the children and grandchildren gives them a meaning when they look back to in life.
Elders teach to maintain strong bonds
Grand weddings are planned for months together. But breaking the same marriage hardly takes a day. Why too many break ups and divorces now? If we see, 70% are not living with their parents. Elders in the family ensure strong bond in relationships. But we see Grandparents in old age homes, parents are in separate flats, kids are in hostels. Well that’s family now!
Grandparents mentor children to better beings
A kid, who could expertise internet surfing for his small age, lost a carom coin while playing. He rushed to ‘Google search’ to find it. It shows that, kids these days are trained to question but not to think and imagine. If that hyper active child had a grandparent in his house he might have been groomed in colours to be a kid with childishness. Having both parent working day and night, the child would benefit being mentored in responsible hands rather than to let them alone or in a day care centers.
Understanding responsibility to reciprocate
When a parent had given their best to their children for their better living they have all the right to be with them in bondage of love. Unfortunately the new generations treat them as a banker who had given life as loan without collateral security, and return the interest alone but not the principal. When a kid was in hunger he was fed; He was assisted and trained for toilet; patiently educated to stand and walk; lovingly taught to talk; caringly addressed in medical needs; Affectionately groomed in good health and education; it is the responsibility of the child to reciprocate it to their parents at their old age when they were no less than a kid.
Old age homes have many sad stories. Few heartless humans hold their mother with them for babysitting and keep their father in old age home considering his sickness a hindrance. In another case two brothers are share the father and mother between themselves since they cannot afford to manage both of them together. People think parents are not their assets to cherish, but liabilities to perish. Until we, the next generation, change this attitude and start respecting our parents, the real values of life will be lost. Old age homes will grow multi folds as mushroom, not as a symbol of fame but a symbol of shame.
Because I believe, the true manifestations of thoughts cluster only due to the intoxication of nature. While I am engrossed in perceiving those alluring and magical winds, what reflects is the vivid sight of the loquacious birds that seem to be relished by the refreshing air. The moment I peregrinate a midst the evergreen fauna, I lose myself into the beautiful panorama. I forget about the mundane worries of life on listening to those soothing and blissful meager sounds around.
It is like I am free from all the restrictions and the impediments of the busy, dull world around. This entirely beautiful new world helps me resurrect from a lifeless being crammed with stress to an independent bird in the nest. I keep walking the boulevard as I admire the ecstasy of nature. It gives me utmost happiness to watch and observe how the flowers blossom, how the little animals are so wrapped up in the trivial environment of theirs and how the winds caress the leaves of the huge trees while they talk to the air and sway to and fro.
To the tranquil clouds that make me cogitate,
And wonder if I would ever wander like them and wait.
Wait for the wind to carry me with it.
Or like a loquacious bird on the highest crescendo of a tree sit.
I ambulate the boulevard intoxicated by the mystical nature
As I feel the suppressed euphoria break just like a seed would rapture.
I want to convey to the presence of the quietest soul that lives beyond this world, who I find in the depth of the floor of the forest, the bark of the tree, in the cool air that we breathe, in the leaves displaying themselves in various patterns, swimming and splashing the cold water creating numerous ripples in the lake, within the majestic and huge mountains, that you define true beauty.
It is a complete trance that captures my mind, compassion that engulfs my heart, as my soul is absorbed by the vivacious obscure world.
