Love is love, it sees no caste, color, creed and status. Love is termed as blind not because many at times we see gorgeous girls paired with a guy not worth being her driver or times when a real hunk is seen looking at a plain Jane with stars in his eyes, love is blind because a lover is unable to see anyone else when in the presence of his/her lover. Their prime focus is nothing but their LOVE!!!

However love is losing its charm in today’s materialistic world. A girl will only stick to her guy as long as he is able to provide her with financial security and a guy will not leave his girl’s side as long as she is obedient to him. I am not trying to generalize the matter but the majority belongs to the above mentioned herd.

Verily true love is not non-existent, I know a couple who happened to meet online and to make the matters worse both belonged to different cities, they had everything going against them except their true feelings for each other. He met her on a social network site, they both followed the same actor who was their favorite, the girl had the habit of writing comments on her favorite actor’s posts and this is how the guy located her. He was drawn to her deep intelligent eyes and heartwarming style of writing. He couldn’t stop himself from sending her a friend’s request. The girl had to act like a girl, she didn’t accept it there and then, she saw his profile a couple of times before she responded.

They spoke for some time and soon the girl realized that she was talking to a guy who viewed the world from a very different angle. He was intelligent, eccentric, sarcastic and straightforward. He didn’t try to maneuver her with sweet flowery honey dipped sentences but she could feel being smitten by him. Soon they started talking to each other for hours and in a week’s time moved from chat to phone. They both knew that they have finally found the missing piece of the jigsaw puzzle of their lives.

There was no condition, no complaints and definitely no demands in their relationship. She was a frivolous kind while he was a party animal, she used to introspect and he loved to meditate, she was hooked to working out while he was a yoga freak, she loved romantic songs while he was in house music, she couldn’t have enough of Christopher Nolan while he was true blue fan of Quentin Tarantino, they were remarkably different yet terribly alike. Poles apart yet nothing could separate them. Their relationship was too good to be true.

One day she was discussing her love life with a very close friend of hers, her friend set her off by saying that the two of you are never going to meet plus he stays in a different city, almost 1600kms from yours, what’s the guarantee that he is loyal to you. She being a real girl, no pun intended but she was swayed by her friend because she didn’t have a brain of her own, she depended on borrowed brain which only caused her anxiety, discomfort and negativity.

She messaged him as soon as she came home but there was no reply. She waited for a few hours and then called, his phone kept ringing. She started to worry. She started to feel all types of bad vibe. Her mind was occupied by the weird ideas of he being with someone else, or he was finally over her, what if he met with some accident, what if he never calls. She was beyond worried and was unable to rest. He didn’t call her the whole of that night and she was unable to sleep throughout the night.

She sent him many emails, messages and voicemails but all she could hear was a silence that was deafening her. The next day he called, she picked up her phone on the first ring, no sooner did she hear his voice, she started to hurl accusations at him saying that he has used her, been unfaithful to her, made a fool out of her and played with her emotions. The guy listened to her patiently and silently. Soon she broke down in tears and started to weep bitterly. This, he couldn’t take and felt helpless as he wanted to take her in his arms but the distance prevailed between the two of them.

Very calmly he told her that he was with a family member who had a heart attack and he was stuck in an emergency crisis. There was so much of rush he forgot to take his phone. He then told her, she can believe him if she wants to or else there is just no point being in relationship which has no trust. Love is an integral part of a relationship, so is respect, trust and understanding. He said, if he wanted to cheat her, he could have done it by staying in the same city, people cheat even after marriage, even after living under the same roof. Any relationship is very fragile but if the love is strong, it can face any storm. Last night was like one of those storms, if their love is strong, their relationship will remain unaffected.

Hence virtual love, real love, long distance love, normal love, LOVE is just LOVE. Shakespeare says, “Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no; it is an ever-fixed mark.” Hence true love is something which can endure any sort of hardships, trials and tribulations. It is falling for someone selflessly without any dreams or desire for any sort of compensation or commitment, to love means to love forever.

The girl realized that he is truly the one for her and she owes no explanations to anyone regarding the sincerity and genuineness of her lover’s emotions, as long as she knows he loves her, she is happy and content. Following the tips on surviving long distance love, the girl decides to meet him every two three months to keep the relationship FRESH FOREVER!!!

A relationship is a relationship, be it regular, virtual or long distance. Each relationship has its own pros and cons and require a particular way of handling it. Love is an integral part of any relationship but it needs more than mere love to make it last longer or rather forever.

Most of the time it so happens that your family, friends and close ones will advise you against the long distance relationship as they harbor the idea that it doesn’t last. My question to them is which relationship comes with a foolproof guarantee that it will never go wrong or will last forever? Well I am sure none can come up with any such guarantee. Here are a few tips that will help any couple in a long distance relationship to survive the pain, longing and frustration.

Transparency

Transparency is the backbone of a healthy relationship. You two need to be very honest with each other, don’t hide anything or hesitate in sharing your feelings. Both of you need to be aware of each other’s wish and desires. Plus it’s not just about desires, you two need to speak directly and openly. Chances are your partner has some flaws and drawbacks, be sure to bring it up in a subtle manner because a harsh critic is your closest buddy.

No Secrets

Secrets kill relationships, be it your past, fantasies or fetish, make sure your partner knows about it all. A lover is not just a lover but your other half, best friend and closest ally. Your past maybe leaden with dark miseries, if you share it with your partner over phone or Skype then obviously your partner will understand, for a sensible person is one who will realize that past has passed and ‘he/she’ wasn’t there when you did all those weird, insane or wild activities, hence won’t make much difference to the way they feel for you. Moreover when you share each and everything, good, bad, ugly and dirty little secrets with each other, you are bound to create an unbreakable bond. This way you two will rely, depend and trust each other the most. The more the comfort level, the more secrets you share and the more secrets you share, the closer you get to each other, the closer you get to each other the stronger the relationship becomes.

Daily Communication

Communication is an integral part of a love filled relationship. It is more than obvious that in a long distance relationship, you won’t be able to hold your partner’s hands every evening, take a stroll in the park, enjoy dinner, party out or just meet each other whenever the urge arises. Lack of physical proximity is a major drawback of such relationship but when two souls are connected then nothing can keep them apart, they will be together even if they stay miles apart. Small gestures like, one good morning and goodnight call on a daily basis will be enough to make the two of you realize that you two are the first one on each other’s minds when you wake up and last one before you go off to sleep. Dropping surprise love notes in the middle of a busy schedule, regular gifts and out of the blue hand written love letters will stir the very entity of your partner and make you two stick closely to each other.

Unpredictability

Stagnancy causes saturation, make sure your relationship is alive, frivolous and filled with excitement. Following a set pattern like talking to each other at a particular time every day or night, greeting each other with gifts on Valentine’s Day and wishing each other on the strike of twelve on his/her birthday might look romantic for some time but a routine relationship will bore you two to the bones. There won’t be any novelty, excitement or surprise and you will feel like as if you are following a mechanical life or moving in circles. Surprise your partner with an out of character behavior, if your partner feels that you are not very expressive or romantic then do something bizarre to sweep your partner off his/her feet. You can just give your partner a call in the middle of the night and tell him/her that they mean the world to you, dedicate a song, send a love text or a lengthy love filled romantic email (a hand written love letter would be better).

Meeting & Mating

Make sure that your relationship is not restricted to phone calls, video chats and social media affection alone. The two of you need to meet each other as well, hence make sure that you plan your meetings every two to three months. Before you meet, have long discussions with each other as to what you two will do when you meet. Tease, please and entice each other by sharing your sexual fantasies with each other. The higher the temperature the pleasurable will be the meeting and the closer the two of you will get to each other. Do keep in mind that sexual compatibility and emotional connect will nourish your relationship. Love starts with eyes, spreads through the body, conquers the heart and inhabits the very soul of lovers, the idea here is to make sure that the two of you belong to each other, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Love your partner from the deepest core of your heart and resolve that come what may, the two of you will stick to each other till your last breath.