Goodness and kindness come hand in hand.
Goodness is the behaviour, kindness is the character. Both are fruits of spirit. A relation to be nourished require both. Kindness is the disposition we should have toward others while goodness include an additional aspect of honesty. Both defy each other as well. For goodness is followed by criticism so is kindness followed by meanness. As it is good to love but to give everything in love is no good. A relation can only grow when both give their share of love and recieve their share as well.
The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It’s more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high, he becomes cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced that person usually gets no credit. It is good to trust but it is no good to trust blindly. Don’t trust anyone blindly most people you meet with are with you only for their own sake and interest. Trust yourself, create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.
Being generous is good but being generous only is no good. People are so docile right now. It is almost as if good government means when the politician lie to us for our own good, for public good and bad government is when politician lie for their own selfish interest. To make everyone happy is good but to always make everyone happy is no good. Putting yourself first is not selfish. The real truth of life lies in the fact sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless. The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle the disappointment along the way.
Feel free to trust people, feel free to get disappoint. Give people numerous chance to trust you for it enlightens your character but do not degrade yourself in it. Do not always step up to fulfil people’s expectation for you have your own life to live to enjoy to be happy. Learn to say no, learn to take credit for each and everything you do, learn to share it as well but do not learn to always share it. A leopard does not change his spots, or change its feeling that spots are rather a credit. The most important thing for a person is to eastablish a credit, a reputation and a character. Follow a simple quote ” everyone doesn’t deserve a platinum, some are happy with bronze.”