The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.
–Ernest Hemingway
Did you try to love yourself after he left you? I know how relationships are like. How you give your all to a person, to show him how much you love him and how you end up forgetting what loving yourself felt like. When you were together, you did everything you could to love him and make him feel loved all the time without thinking about yourself even for a second. But, now that he is gone, it’s time that you start falling in love with yourself again. Get you self worth and your significance back that you completely abandoned thinking about him. It’s time that you move forward.
To begin with, let your past go. Don’t hold onto it. Sometimes, holding on does more damage than letting go does. It’s significant that you realize that every person that comes in your life is not meant to stay with you forever. Some come in your life only to teach you lessons and to make you grow. I know that he has taken parts of you with him as he left, but trust me, darling, you’ll bloom in the left over parts and grow. Don’t try to get him back. Use that energy to create a better future for yourself. Don’t regret loving him. Accept what you had with him as a beautiful memory and move on. Don’t hate him, hatred will be just another feeling that you will have for him. If you can’t cease loving him then don’t but don’t try to get him back because loving someone doesn’t mean that the person has to love you back. Love is the purest of all emotions and it isn’t selfish.
Now that you have done all that, start loving yourself. Remember all the things you did for him to make him feel important and loved? Do that for yourself. Love yourself, only then you will be able to love others without being hurt.
Now that he has gone, love yourself!
